Exploring ways to make our community and world better by addressing issues that are negatively affecting how we live and work together.
If interested, contact Ann Brice at email: firstname.lastname@example.org
January Meeting Notes – SANE — 2021_February mtg
CARDS FOR WAITRESSES RELATING TO WEARING MASKS
– Card for phone or device – aauw_mask_1up
– Card for printing on 8.5 x 11 paper – aauw_mask_10cm
The cards above were created because we were told that waitstaff were often asked by customers to remove their masks. One solution was to create a simple straight forward statement that could be given out to people. Another solutions is to advertise that such a rotten situation exists.
“Take off your mask,” the diner instructed the waitress while she took his order one afternoon. “I want to see your beautiful smile.” “If I do it, it makes me seem like I have no respect for myself,” she thought, weighing her options. “But if I don’t, he’s going to leave me a bad tip.”
40 percent of respondents to a One Fair Wage study said that harassment- always an issue in an industry in which low-wage workers rely on tips had gotten worse during the pandemic. The mask, meant to protect essential hourly workers, had instead become a doorway to harassment. It is one group of people announcing, in the starkest possible terms, that their viewing pleasure is more important than another group’s personal safety.
The cards, mentioned above, were created by Barb Fischer as a response to the SANE
discussion about this. A solution we came up with was to create a simple straight forward statement that could be given out to people. This allows the waitress to not worry about what she might say or in what tone she says it. Hopefully it keeps them from losing their much needed tips. Please print these and give them to waitstaff that you know or tell them about our website where they can print them for themselves. Find them at: https://lacrosse-wi.aauw.net/sane/.
LINKS GATHERED BY MEMBERS
New York Times,
Attacker Stalked Women in Brooklyn for Weeks as Police Stayed Silent
“Philanthropist Melinda Gates on the Unpaid Labor Women Do” | Amanpour and Company”
Note here how some females are kept from being allowed the same study time as males because of “female chores”.
The Marshall Plan for Moms’ is making waves.
Should mothers get a monthly $2,400 stimulus check?
Below are inks relating to talking across the divide:
Pandemic to Politics – Adam Grant on How to Debate Someone With Opposing Views / Amanpour & Company
- Rogerian Communication
Mindfulness, Buddhism, and Rogerian Argument, by Alexandria Peary
Opinion | The Science of Changing Someone’s Mind – The New York Times
JUDY CHICAGO’S POEM, The New York Times
Artist of The Dinner Party,
Judy Chicago’s Poem – PDF file
And then all that has divided us shall merge
And then compassion will be wedded to power
And then softness will come to a world that is harsh and unkind
And then both men and women will be gentle
And then both women and men will be strong
And then no person will be subject to another’s will
And then all will be rich and free and varied
And then the greed of some will give way to the needs of many
And then all will share equally in the Earth’s abundance
And then all will care for the sick and the weak and the old
And then all will nourish the young
And then all will cherish life’s creatures
And then all will live in harmony with each other and the Earth
And then everywhere will be called Eden once again
By Marge Piercy, 2/17/2010
When I think of women heroes,
it’s not Joan of Arc or Molly Pitcher
but mothers who quietly say
to their daughters, you can.
Who stand behind attempts
to open doors long bolted shut
to teams or clubs or professions.
I think of women who dress
respectably and march and march
and march again, for the ability
to choose, for peace, for rights
their own or others. Who form
phone banks, who stuff envelopes
who do the invisible political work.
They do not get their faces on
magazine covers. They don’t get fan
mail or receive awards. But without
them, no woman or liberal man
would ever be elected, no law
would be passed or changed. We
would be stuck in sexist mud.
It’s the receptionist in the clinic,
the escorts to frightened women,
the volunteers at no kill shelters,
women sorting bottles at the dump,
women holding signs in the rain,
women who take calls of the abused,
of rape victims, night after night.
It’s the woman at her computer
or desk when the family’s asleep
writing letters, organizing friends.
Big change turns on small pushes.
Heroes and heroines climb into
history books, but it’s such women
who actually write our future.
BY AMANDA GORMAN
“We’ve learned that quiet isn’t always peace,
and the norms and notions
of what just is
isn’t always just-ice.”
– “The Hill We Climb”
BY MARGARET MEAD
“If we are to achieve a richer culture,
rich in contrasting values,
we must recognize the whole gamut
of human potentialities, and so weave
a less arbitrary social fabric
one in which each diverse human
gift will find a fitting place.”
Betty Friedan: “Equality for women meant a radical restructuring of the institutions in society that are based on it …”